Over the last couple of weeks, thousands, if not millions of people made New Year’s resolutions. According to a commonly quoted statistic, only eight percent of people actually keep their New Year’s resolution. Not a good success rate! I don’t question this stat as over the years I’ve seen people flood into gyms at the start of the year…year after year. They get excited about the prospect of better fitness and buy a membership only to show up for a few workouts in January and not return until they fool themselves the following year.
I suggest that there are some pieces missing in the equation in making these New Year’s resolutions. One of them is that they are missing a necessary change in mindset. Real and lasting personal change can be challenging. Whenever attempting to make a positive change in life, it’s normally inevitable to come up against resistance. To help with that, I offer a mantra. It goes like this:
Pain of discipline or pain of regret.
Resistance may come in the form of laziness, procrastination, enticing distractions, or a myriad of external or internal circumstances that your subconscious mind will give merit to and use to draw you away from the discomfort of doing what you consciously told yourself that you are committed to. Whenever you come up against any form of resistance, you have a choice to make. In fact, you MUST choose between the temporary and less taxing pain of discipline, or the heavier and sometimes until-death suffering of regret. As soon as the internal dialog starts that has you consider doing what may kill the results you seek, just say the words, “pain of discipline or pain of regret”, then consciously make your choice. Make it wise one!